In Support of Iceland's Proposed Involuntary-Circumcision Ban

The following is an English-language version of a commentary that was published in kjarninn on 12 November 2018.  This essay was originally written as a letter that was sent to the Icelandic Alþingi earlier this year when that body was accepting public comments on the proposed legislation.  It was subsequently revised and published on this blog as "Letter to the Iceland Alþingi on the Proposed Involuntary Circumcision Ban."  What follows here is a second revision which served as the basis for the Icelandic translation that appears in kjarninn.  That translation was produced by Steinunn Ketilsdottir and Sveinn Svavarsson to whom I am immensely grateful for, without their heroic and generous work on this project, the publication of this essay in Iceland in Icelandic would not have been possible.

by David Balashinsky

As has been widely reported in the press here and around the world, the Iceland Parliament (or Alþingi) is considering legislation that would outlaw the non-therapeutic circumcision of male minors (that is, circumcision that is performed on boys under the age of 18  when not medically indicated). This legislation, if passed, would provide boys with the same legal protection - no more and no less - against genital cutting that girls in Iceland have had since 2005 and girls in the U.S.A. have had since 1996. Because this legislation has been unfairly portrayed by the Anti-Defamation League and others as an attack on religious freedom broadly and an attack on Jews specifically, I would like to explain why I, a Jewish man, as well as many Jews on whose behalf I am writing, have endorsed it.  I am writing not only to offer our public support for this legislation but because we want it to be known that the ADL and others who have expressed their opposition to it do not speak for all Jews and they do not speak for us.

Not only are Jews around the world abandoning ritual infant circumcision in ever-increasing numbers but many of us are working actively to end it.  So let me begin by offering a few words about who we are and what we believe in. We are men and women who come from different walks of life and different parts of the world but who are united in our identification as Jews and in our unwavering opposition to involuntary genital cutting. Some of us are secular Jews, identifying as Jewish ethnically and culturally, while some of us are religious Jews for whom Judaism is central to our beliefs and values. Some of us have been subjected to genital cutting and others have not. Some of us were subjected to involuntary circumcision within the context of the brit milah (literally, the “covenant of circumcision,” which is the religious circumcision ceremony) while some of us were subjected to it merely because we were born into a particular time and place and so were swept up in the tide of medicalized (but nonetheless customary) practice of involuntary circumcision that has been a blot on neonatal medical care in the United States during the past one hundred seventy-five years or so. For those of us who have been subjected to involuntary circumcision, we maintain not only that we were harmed by it but that, in being denied a choice regarding the very configuration of our own bodies, we were deprived of our fundamental human rights and dignity.  

We emphatically do not reject our Jewishness and, for those of us who are religious, we do not reject Judaism: what we reject is involuntary circumcision. We reject it and we oppose it on the following grounds:  

First, we reject involuntary circumcision because we regard the genital cutting of children without their consent as a violation of the fundamental human right to grow up with all of one's body parts intact.  That is why we oppose all genital cutting: female, male and intersex.  We believe that every human being has an inherent right to grow up with the genitals that she or he was born with.   

Second, we reject the proposition that involuntary circumcision is essential to the practice of Judaism for the individual himself. It isn't. Jewish women are not subjected to involuntary circumcision and they are no less spiritual - nor do they regard themselves any less beloved by Him (or Her) who they believe to be the Creator of the universe - than their Jewish fathers, brothers, husbands and sons who were. More to the point, there are countless Jewish boys and men the world over - no less spiritual and no less devout than our Jewish brethren who have written to oppose the involuntary-circumcision ban - who were not, as neonates, subjected to this ancient and inhumane ritual.  Judaism is the sublime manifestation of one's spirituality and religious beliefs. It is not reducible to the size and shape of a man's penis; to claim otherwise is to debase Judaism.

Third, we reject the proposition that genital cutting is essential to the survival of Judaism as a cohesive religion. It isn't.  More and more religious Jews are replacing the brit milah with the brit shalom, (literally, “covenant of peace”): a religious ceremony that serves exactly the same spiritual and communal purposes as the brit milah but without the harm, without the blood, without the pain, without the trauma, and without the human rights violation.

Fourth, we reject the proposition that involuntary circumcision is essential to the continued existence of the Jews as a people.  It isn't. The Jewish people existed long before the advent of involuntary neonatal circumcision as a religious mandate, we existed longer still before involuntary circumcision was expanded into the radical prepucectomy (peri'ah) that is practiced today, and we will continue to exist long after involuntary circumcision has gone the way of other religious mandates that are no longer followed by the majority of Jews (such as post-menstrual ritual bathing) and after it has gone the way of other long-discarded and repudiated practices including polygyny, death by stoning, and slavery.

Fifth, we reject the proposition that involuntary circumcision is a necessary part of being Jewish. It isn't. A Jewish girl is no less Jewish than her brother. And a Jewish boy born to Jewish parents is no less Jewish by virtue of not having had part of his penis cut off.  Jewishness is a product of one's genes, one's heritage, one's family life and upbringing, one's values, one's traditions and culture. And, as noted above, in the case of Judaism, it is a product of one's religious beliefs.

Sixth, our opposition to involuntary circumcision is inextricable from the ethical and moral beliefs that we, as Jews, hold dear. Our efforts to bring about the end of ritual circumcision and all non-therapeutic genital cutting are guided by the concept of tikkun olam (literally, “repairing the world”).  This concept, which goes back at least to the third century, CE and appears in the Mishnah (a compendium of rabbinic teaching, law and other Jewish oral traditions that began to be set down in writing following the destruction of the Second Temple in 70 CE) has come to be synonymous with the idea that Jews are required to work for social justice.  It is not enough for us to oppose genital cutting for ourselves or as an abstract principle. We are called upon to work to end it and to speak for those who cannot speak for themselves. Our fervent opposition to involuntary circumcision, then, is not in spite of our Jewish beliefs and values but because of them.

Seventh, in contrast to the concerns raised by the ADL and others, we regard the continued practice of involuntary circumcision as constituting as much a threat (and potentially a greater one) to the survival of Judaism as a religion and to the Jewish people as a people as banning it would be.  Our concerns in this regard have been prompted by comments that we have received from self-described "former Jews" who, owing entirely to their resentment about what was done to their genitals as infants without their consent, have rejected not just the brit milah but their Judaism and even their Jewishness.  The brit milah, far from girding these unfortunate men to their religion and to their people, resulted ultimately in driving them away.  We fear that this trend will not only continue but increase. Involuntary circumcision has, for a long time, been on a collision course with modernity, especially with respect to the progress the world has made insofar as fundamental human rights are concerned.  We are now witnessing that collision and its unfortunate results unfolding in real time. As the world has modernized, the brit milah has become increasingly impossible to reconcile with contemporary notions of autonomy and the inviolability of each person's physical boundaries.  It is inevitable, we fear, that more and more Jews will be driven to renounce Judaism and their Jewishness altogether if they are made to feel that their acceptance of genital cutting is a non-negotiable condition of remaining within the fold.

Eighth, we reject the broad assertion that the movement to ban involuntary circumcision - and the specific assertion that the proposed legislation banning it that is before the Alþingi - is nothing more than a thinly veiled attack on Jews or Judaism. We Jewish opponents of involuntary circumcision regard this movement as a progressive human-rights struggle and we regard this legislation as a long-overdue inclusion of boys - including Jewish ones - within the protective ambit of the already-existing legal framework under which female genital mutilation has been banned in Iceland and throughout much of the world. We regard the proposed legislation not as an attack on Jews but as the inevitable and logical conclusion of contemporary and increasingly universal standards regarding human rights and children's rights as articulated in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (ratified by the United Nations General Assembly in 1948) and in the Convention on the Rights of the Child, adopted by the United Nations General Assembly in 1989 and ratified in 1990 (Iceland became a signatory in 1990, while the provisions of the Convention were incorporated into Icelandic law in 2013), and specifically as articulated in Article 37, part a of the latter which states that "No child shall be subjected to torture or other cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment."

Ninth, we reject the assertion that the right to subject an infant or child to involuntary circumcision is a fundamental right that comes under the rubric of "religious freedom." While we recognize that the freedom to believe (or not to believe, for that matter) is fundamental and, therefore, absolute and illimitable, we reject the extension of that principle to the assertion that the freedom to act is likewise fundamental and, therefore, absolute and illimitable. We believe that one person's right to practice her or his religion ends where another person's body begins. We believe that one person's fundamental right of religious liberty is delimited by every other person's even more fundamental right not to be physically harmed. We believe that the only person who has a right to cause to have his or her genitals (or any other body part) mutilated, deformed, scarred, or surgically altered in any way is the individual himself or herself.  No one else has a right to decide what parts of a boy's penis he gets to keep and what parts get cut off. We do not consider that a radical or even a controversial position, much less an anti-Jewish or anti-Semitic (or anti-Muslim) one. On the contrary, we consider it to be simply and rather obviously in accordance with contemporary norms regarding fundamental human rights and human dignity. We believe that no one has the right to cut off part of an unconsenting child's penis as a religious rite, for reasons of culture, for reasons of cosmesis, for reasons of convenience, for reasons of conformity, for reasons of tradition or on the basis of dubious and specious justifications related to  health or hygiene when perfectly efficacious non-invasive, non-harmful, non-painful and non-permanent alternatives are readily available (such as soap and water and, in adulthood, the use of a condom).

Having stated all of the foregoing, we also wish it to be known that neither do we oppose circumcision under all circumstances. While we may not approve, we subscribe to the right of a man to choose circumcision for himself for whatever reason he may have once he is an adult and of an age at which he can make informed choices about his own body. Once he is capable of exercising informed consent, we endorse, on the principle of autonomy and self-determination, his right to have his body altered in accordance with his own beliefs and values - whether these beliefs have their origin in religion or anything else. It is his body and that is why it should be his choice.

We also acknowledge the social context in which opposition by the ADL and other Jewish organizations to this proposed legislation has arisen. We are fully aware of the history of anti-Semitism and the persecution of our ancestors throughout so much of European history. And we acknowledge that that persecution has manifested itself in circumcision prohibitions in generations past.  When these earlier prohibitions were enacted, after all, they were part of explicitly anti-Semitic, anti-Jewish government programs. It is understandable, especially with the memory of the Holocaust still fresh in our minds, that some Jews would hear ominous echoes of Europe's dark anti-Semitic past in the current effort to prohibit involuntary circumcision. Such fears may acquire even greater validation and urgency given the alarming recrudescence of nationalism, xenophobia and anti-Semitism that has occurred on both sides of the Atlantic during the past few years (and especially during the past two years).  

But, as Jews who oppose involuntary circumcision, we vigorously reject the assertion that the modern genital autonomy movement (which, it bears repeating,  seeks to ban all genital cutting: of girls and intersex children as well as of boys) is nothing more than a resurgent manifestation of anti-Semitism.  Indeed, we are offended by that assertion. While circumcision prohibitions from centuries past that were anti-Jewish in design and the contemporary movement to ban all involuntary genital cutting both culminate in and intersect at the point of banning involuntary circumcision, they are fundamentally dissimilar in origin because they arise from worldviews that are, in fact, worlds apart. Previous prohibitions originated in ethnic and religious hatred while the modern genital autonomy movement originates in respect for the body-rights of the individual and in a philosophical objection to violence and to the needless causing of pain and suffering to infants. Previous prohibitions sought to ban this ancient, involuntary bloodletting ritual not because of what it is but because of who practiced it. The modern genital autonomy movement seeks to ban all involuntary genital cutting not because of who practices it but because of what it is.   

We also reject the assertion that the effect, if not the stated purpose, of the proposed involuntary-circumcision prohibition would be to make Jews (or Muslims) personae non gratae in Iceland. As Jonathan Greenblatt of the ADL put it, "Such a ban would mean that no Jewish family could be raised in Iceland, and it is inconceivable that a Jewish community could remain in any country that prohibited brit milah." That assertion completely discounts the thousands upon thousands of Jews who abhor the brit milah and who would be only too happy to raise their families - and to raise them as proudly Jewish - in a country where brit milah is prohibited by law. How many new Jewish parents have been pressured - against their natural maternal and paternal instincts, against their inmost beliefs, and against their better judgment - into subjecting their sons to circumcision? Time and again we learn of the extent to which it is the social pressure on behalf of involuntary circumcision that is brought to bear on new parents by their parents, relatives or others in their community that is chiefly and ultimately responsible for the perpetuation of this odious practice. The paradox is that, contrary to Mr. Greenblatt's supposition that the involuntary-circumcision ban must necessarily result in an exodus of Jews from Iceland, such a prohibition could just as likely have the opposite effect: an influx of Jews who would gladly raise their families in a country where they are free of the social pressures to subject their children to genital cutting.

There is nothing in the text of the proposed bill that could lead anyone to fairly conclude that it is motivated by anti-Jewish (or even anti-Islamic) sentiment. The bill has sponsors from the Progressive Party, the People's Party, the Left-Green Movement and the Pirate Party. And while the Progressive Party and the People's Party have recently been linked with populism and the espousal of anti-immigration sentiments, the bill is also co-sponsored by MPs from parties that are associated mainly with environmentalism, feminism and pacifism (the Left-Green Movement), and direct democracy (the Pirate Party).  

We are thus left to weigh the merits and potential significance of the proposed legislation against the historical backdrop of anti-Semitism and against the contemporary backdrop of xenophobia and anti-immigrant nationalism that have swept across much of the northern hemisphere. We are left, further, to consider whether the proposed legislation has roots sunk deep within nationalist, anti-immigrant and anti-Semitic soil, as some have claimed of this and of similar proposed legislation elsewhere or, as we would like to believe, whether it is, on the contrary, the flowering of the same humanist and progressive impulses that inform the genital autonomy movement to which so many Jews who oppose forced genital cutting subscribe.

Having done so, we wholeheartedly and enthusiastically endorse this legislation. The proposed circumcision prohibition would ban all non-therapeutic involuntary genital cutting of boys, no matter what reasons are entertained by the child's parents for wanting to subject their child to circumcision, no matter what that child's parents' religion or ethnicity happens to be and, for that matter, even irrespective of any ulterior or merely unfairly impugned motives on the part of the bill's sponsors. This opportunity is too important not to seize. The right of every child to be free of genital cutting is an idea whose time has come. The proposed circumcision ban, as we see it, represents the inevitable and irresistible march of human progress toward greater respect for the rights of the child and the rights of the individual.  Consistent with our Jewish ethos and with the concept of tikkun olam, we endorse that progress and are proud, as Jews, to be a part of it.

 

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David Balashinsky is originally from New York City and now lives near the Finger Lakes region of New York.  He writes about bodily autonomy and human rights, gender, culture and politics.
 

More Inconsistency from the AAP: Spanking versus Non-Therapeutic Neonatal Circumcision

by David Balashinsky

It is now the AAP's position that parents should not spank their children. As it stated in this morning's press release announcing the publication of its newly revised policy statement on corporal punishment ( "Effective Discipline to Raise Healthy Children") "the use of spanking as a disciplinary tool . . . is ineffective. . . . In fact . . . it may cause harm. . . ." In brief, you shouldn't spank your child.

But it's still okay to cut off part of his penis.

Several years ago, Morten Frisch et al. published a commentary in Pediatrics (April, 2013; Vol. 131/Issue 4) in which it criticized the AAP for the "obvious" cultural bias that had led to its 2012 policy statement on non-therapeutic circumcision. Virtually everything that the AAP has said and done since then only confirms this bias. It is impossible to conclude otherwise than that the AAP has two sets of criteria by which it judges customs, practices, policies, procedures or behaviors that affect children. One set is reserved exclusively for non-therapeutic circumcision, the other, for everything else.

The AAP's latest policy statement on corporal punishment is a case in point. It cites evidence that suggests that there are significant harms associated with the practice. Yet when its task force looked at non-therapeutic circumcision several years back, it gave little or no consideration to the harms associated with it. As Brian D. Earp pointed out , the AAP itself conceded at the time that "the true incidence of complications after infant circumcision is unknown" (AAP Circumcision Policy Statement; Pediatrics; September 2012; Vol. 130/Issue 3, as cited in Brian D. Earp: "The AAP report on circumcision: bad science + bad ethics - bad medicine" [Practical Ethics; 27 May 2013]). As far as I am aware, the AAP still steadfastly refuses to acknowledge or even consider any of the evidence for long-term adverse effects of neonatal circumcision, starting with the most obvious one: namely, that non-therapeutic infant circumcision carries with it a 100% risk of permanent loss of functional and sensitive genital tissue.

As many critics have pointed out, circumcision is a harm in and of itself in the sense that any non-consensual amputation of a body part, when not medically indicated, constitutes a harm. (See in particular, Brian D. Earp and Robert Darby: "Circumcision, Sexual Experience and Harm" [University of Pennsylvania Journal of International Law {Online Symposium, re: Vol. 37, Iss. 2}, April 3, 2017], Peter W. Adler: "Is Circumcision Legal?" [Richmond Journal of Law and the Public Interest; Vol. XVI:iii, 2013], and J. Steven Svoboda: "Nontherapeutic Circumcision of Minors as an Ethically Problematic Form of Iatrogenic Injury" [AMA Journal of Ethics, Aug. 2017].) Each of these critics approaches what is inarguably an unnecessary surgical amputation of erogenous tissue as a harm in and of itself. One might assume it to be a foregone conclusion that any surgical amputation of part of a child's body that is medically unnecessary and performed mainly as a custom constitutes a harm. Such is non-therapeutic infant circumcision. Yet the AAP jealously preserves its moral blind spot with respect to this and only this practice, and thus continues to advance the argument that parents have a right to subject their sons to circumcision provided only that they "weigh [the] medical information in the context of their own religious, ethical, and cultural beliefs and practices."

Now that the AAP has issued an updated policy statement on corporal punishment, what, we may ask, does it have to say about the religious, ethical and cultural beliefs and practices that countenance spanking? There are, no doubt, many people who believe spanking to be not merely consonant with their religious and cultural beliefs but ethical, too. Indeed, there are probably many parents who believe it to be unethical to "spare the rod" lest they end up spoiling the child. Yet nary a mention is made in the AAP's revised policy statement about cultural or religious justifications for corporal punishment.

That is not to say that the statement does not address the particular factors that lead some parents to inflict corporal punishment on their children, but the authors cite only two - parental depression and the influence of past parental trauma - and these are obviously regarded by the authors as pathological causes of spanking. Spanking then, is treated as a pathological phenomenon: not only in its effects but in its causes. Contrast this with the AAP's treatment of neonatal circumcision, of which it has stated "In the pluralistic society of the United States, where parents are afforded wide authority for determining what constitutes appropriate child-rearing and child welfare, it is legitimate for the parents to take into account their own cultural, religious and ethnic traditions, in addition to medical factors, when making this choice."
Yet even as it consigns spanking to the realm of pathology, as opposed to cultural norms, the AAP's revised policy statement nonetheless acknowledges the broad social acceptance of corporal punishment, including the fact that it appears to be declining, as a way of contextualizing its discussion of the practice. The fact that, as recently as 2012, 70% of Americans believed that a "good, hard spanking is sometimes necessary to discipline a child" certainly suggests that spanking is integral to parenting in our culture. And if the percentage of those who supported spanking in 2012 reflects the percentage of those who engaged in it, spanking - at least in 2012 - was certainly more prevalent - and thus, it could be argued, more culturally relevant - than non-therapeutic neonatal circumcision.
It is highly significant, then, that the authors of the revised policy statement cite the 1989 United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child as part of the historical background in which it seeks to contextualize its newly revised policy of affirmative opposition to corporal punishment. As it happens, the fact that non-therapeutic neonatal circumcision violates this very document (referring, undoubtedly, to both the letter and the spirit of its text) is one of the reasons given by Frisch et al. for the emergence of a "growing consensus among physicians, including those in the United States, that physicians should discourage parents from circumcising their healthy infant boys. . . ."

I, for one, congratulate the AAP on its strengthened anti-corporal-punishment policy. I have always felt spanking to be nothing more or less than an act of violence. I do not see how, short of an act of self-defense, even the best of intentions can justify violence toward anyone else and certainly not toward one's child. I also believe that spanking, per se, by which I mean in its particulars, has a peculiarly demeaning and humiliating quality to it (which, I would imagine, may explain, at least in part, its appeal in some adult quarters as a sexual fetish). I believe that children can be taught and encouraged and reared to adulthood successfully without recourse to such debasing and antiquated practices as spanking or other forms of corporal punishment.

In fact, I would have to say that, being a humanist, I oppose spanking for the same reasons that I oppose genital cutting. Both are acts of violence, both are demeaning to the victim, both are harmful - immediately and in the long-term - and both violate internationally recognized principles of bodily autonomy, human dignity and individual rights.
It seems perfectly reasonable that the AAP should adopt a position in opposition to corporal punishment which is why, at the same time, it is so perfectly unreasonable for this organization to persist in its defense of non-therapeutic neonatal circumcision. But, again, it all boils down to the double standard with which the AAP appraises non-therapeutic circumcision on the one hand and virtually everything else on the other.
In choosing to place evidence and reason over custom and religion, the AAP has wisely chosen to take a dispassionate and objective view of corporal punishment, which it now condemns. It can only be that the AAP was brought to this inevitable and irresistible conclusion by narrowly circumscribing its field of view, which is, after all, what one has a right to expect of a professional medical organization. The AAP should be applauded for approaching spanking not with deference to its broad, if waning, cultural acceptance or religious justifications (and what hasn't been excused or justified by cultural prevalence or religion at one time or another?) but strictly by weighing its observable harms (which the AAP believes spanking entails) against its efficacy (which the AAP believes it lacks).
But this is in marked contrast to the AAP's 2012 conclusions regarding non-therapeutic circumcision in defense of which (and notwithstanding the lack of sufficient evidence to warrant its routine practice) the AAP chose to defer to the cultural and religious preferences of the parents. It is impossible to conceive of the AAP's coming to the same conclusion as it did in 2012 on infant circumcision had it applied the same standards and principles to that cultural practice as it now has to the cultural practice of corporal punishment.

Response to Dr. Jen Gunter Regarding "My Vagina Is Terrific. Your Opinion About It Is Not."

by David Balashinsky

Last fall, Dr. Jen Gunter published this powerful and, I would argue, long-overdue essay in the New York Times.  It is no secret that women have been subjected to body-shaming and genital-shaming for a long time and it is no secret that women's insecurities about their bodies and vulvas have also been exploited for financial gain for a long time.  Dr. Gunter was properly fed up and so decided that the time had come to speak up.  I am glad she did, not only because I agree with most of what she has written here but also because I fervently believe that the culture of contempt for female bodies and genitalia needs to be combated and combated vociferously and publicly.  There are probably few as well qualified to do so as Dr. Gunter.

But I see another value in Dr. Gunter's essay in that it can serve as a conversation-starter on the obverse question: What about women's attitudes toward men's genitals?  That question is, not unreasonably, entirely omitted from Gunter's essay but this, I fear, can leave the reader with the erroneous impression that the intricately related phenomena of ignorance about the genitalia of the opposite sex, revulsion for the genitalia of the opposite sex and genital-shaming that Gunter criticizes is entirely unilateral: that men have disdain for women's genitalia but the feeling is not mutual.  (Or that, if it is, at least women are discreet enough to keep their opinions to themselves.)  This seems to be the central premise of Gunter's essay.  As she writes,

I have listened to women with completely normal exams weep that they have been told that they do not smell or taste correctly.  That they are too wet, or too loose, or too gross.

These women all shared something: They were told these things by men.  While I admit this is anecdotal data, my years of listening to secret shame about healthy vaginas and vulvas seems to suggest it is largely, if not entirely, male partners who exploit vaginal and vulvar insecurities as a weapon of emotional abuse and control.

Gunter is arguing here, as she does throughout her essay, not only that men are wont to criticize and "mansplain" women's genitalia but that this unfortunate tendency is a one-way street: that men feel entitled to opine and do opine about women's genitalia whereas women feel no such entitlement and seldom take such liberties.  Moreover, that women suffer some pretty horrendous consequences as a result of the genital-shaming to which they are subjected by men, whereas men do not suffer the same (let alone worse) consequences as a result of the genital-shaming to which they are subjected by women.  Gunter's twin hypotheses, then, are that a distaste for the genitalia of the opposite sex is entirely one-sided as is the sense of entitlement that men have to express that distaste.  I dispute both of these hypotheses.

While I do not dispute Dr. Gunter's criticism of men who express revulsion or contempt for the natural female vulva (their loss, I say), nor of her criticism of the expression of their opinions, uninvited, on the topic of women's genitalia, I do dispute the notion that ignorance, fear and loathing of the genitalia of the opposite sex are uniquely male attributes.  While Gunter is certainly justified in criticizing men in her essay, she treats it as a foregone conclusion that women themselves are never guilty of exactly the same sort of genital-shaming of men.

Yet as anyone active on social media nowadays can attest, whenever the subject of penises comes up, and particularly in the context of the movement to end male genital mutilation (or "circumcision"), there is never any dearth of women offering innumerable comments on the topic of the male prepuce with just as much ignorance about and contempt for that natural and functional part of male anatomy as Gunter rightfully complains men demonstrate with respect to the female vulva. Women routinely make comments to the effect that the male prepuce is disgusting, that it smells bad, that it's ugly, that it's weird, that it just doesn't belong there and that, because men are such pigs by nature and incapable of performing even the most rudimentary sort of personal hygiene, their prepuces ought to be surgically removed at birth.

For example, responding to a posted story on Facebook about the decreased incidence of non-therapeutic infant circumcision, one woman had this to say:

A sad piece of news for women who are afraid of, or grossed out by, uncircumcised penises.  Also a sad piece of news for uncircumcised American boys who hope to have any kind of sex life with American women. 

All health  concerns aside, I just can't sleep with an uncircumcised man.  It's like an alien penis to me.  And I know I'm not alone in my fear and revulsion.

Here are some other random examples - all comments made by women:

Well we all know who the uncircumcised people are on this post!  Nobody wants a pig in the blanket peepee that's prone to getting infections!

They're are ugly.

I was called nasty as fuck because I equated an uncircumcised penis to an elephant trunk!

Prob cuz hes gonna be sending dick pics in 15 years and aint no one wanna see a pic of an uncircumcised pic

Give it up, turtleneck.

If your bf won't circumcise himself for you he don't love you

That had to be a butcher not a Dr circumcision is the best for a male it is cleaner

OMG they are now on the corner near the mall protesting circumcision   I can only imagine what fighting for the extra skin is all about! smdh

Men have a hard enough time changing there underwear non the left cleaning under foreskin.  Saves you an extra step in the shower with it gone.  Why are they complaining?

really of all the things I the world to stand for your foreskin?  Let the babies be aborted the flag stomped on and the innocent shot but omg don't let them take my foreskin for the love of God save my dick skin

But it's sooooooo ugly!  I say continue to remove it!  Who wants to be with an ant eater!  Lol

OMG GET A LIFE ITS NOT HEALTHY!!!!!!! and it looks gross

(By the way, consider this a general sic for all of the above.)
  
I think it worth pointing out here that these women are not just shaming individual men's penises "as a weapon of abuse or control" but are doing so specifically in support of a non-consensual and irreversible surgical modification of infants' genitals as a matter of general practice. 

Criticizing a woman's genitalia is, as far as I'm concerned, boorish, ungallant and unmanly.  And criticizing a woman's genitalia specifically "as a weapon of abuse or control" is abusive.  Such behavior is contemptible and I am ashamed of any man (or woman, for that matter) who would stoop so low.

Yet I wonder how Gunter would feel if men in our society argued for female genital mutilation in accordance with their own peculiar tastes in vulvas as often as women in our society argue - openly and without a trace of compunction - for male genital mutilation in accordance with their own peculiar tastes in penises.  I wonder how Gunter would feel if the vile comments directed at her and her vulva did not stop at mere criticism but actually endorsed her or her daughters' or her sisters' or her patients' actually being subjected against their will to genital cutting.

How often are intact men subjected to genital shaming in our society - in movies, on television, in stand-up comedy, and now on social media?  And how often are male victims of forced genital cutting told by women - whose genital integrity is protected by federal and state statutes - that the prepuce is "just extra skin," that "your parents did you a favor by having it cut off," that "it has no sensation, anyway" and to "stop whining"?  Could a man (or woman, for that matter) publish a column in a nationally recognized media platform suggesting that those who oppose female circumcision do so largely because they have psychological problems?   Could a man publish a piece in the New York Post (the same publication that Gunter criticized for its erroneous headline about her) belittling women who object to having been subjected to forced genital cutting and suggesting that they "find new hobbies," rather than spending their time protesting in order to bring about an end to this quintessential human rights violation?  I don't think so.  Insofar as ignorance, unbidden and derogatory comments about genitalia are concerned, everything that Gunter criticizes men for saying about women's vulvas are things that women themselves say about men's prepuces.  It's no worse when men do it and it's no better when women do it.  Both are wrong. 

The sense of outrage with which Dr. Gunter receives unsolicited and derogatory comments by men about her or other women's vulvas is perfectly understandable.  I share that outrage.  My question for Dr. Gunter is, Do you share mine?  If these men were openly justifying non-consensual labiaplasty or other forms of female genital surgery as a prophylaxis against the accumulation of smegma and its associated odors within the skin-folds of the vulva, I can only imagine that Gunter's outrage would be commensurately greater.  Yet having to listen to advocacy on behalf of precisely this sort of genital surgery and for precisely this reason (as well as numerous other equally specious reasons) is what men in our society are subjected to routinely.  Worse, as infants, they are subjected, routinely, to the surgery itself.

Gunter writes, "The era in which men can shame women for their perfectly healthy vaginas is now coming to an end."  One can only hope so.  I, for one, would equally welcome an end to the era in which women can shame men for their perfectly healthy intact penises.

 

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David Balashinsky is originally from New York City and now lives near the Finger Lakes region of New York. He is a licensed physical therapist and writes about bodily autonomy and human rights, gender, culture, and politics.